Lyrics

It ain’t always only about what I want
It is also often about what they want from me
So me being around ain’t just ‘bout me being around
It’s what me being around means to who

But sometimes I forget and I go out anyway
And make small talk with a stranger who is probably half my age
And the sensitivity to nearly every word I say
Makes me realize that it ain’t only me that’s changed

Old guy at the party
You know this used to be a different bar when I moved here
When the drinks would cost half as much and it was twice the fun
But I know I know you don’t care

And I sense what you are sensing by the shifting of your legs
And the way you check your phone instead of talking face to face
That even if I were your brother even if I were a saint
You would hold me at a distance until you could get away

Old guy at the party
You know this used to be a different town when I moved here
When you could call it what it was and no-one held a grudge
But I know I know you don’t care

So I’ll try to keep my head down be polite and not impose
And if you don’t ask then I won’t tell you anything I know
‘Cause you’ve been mansplained your own game by a million assholes
But I just wish we’d talk instead of drinking here alone

Old guy at the party
I respect your pronouns even when I forget to use um
I respect everyone in the room
I wish it were the same with you
But everybody’s got their own cross to bare
So even if you don’t
I still care
And when ya come around
I’ll be here